Relationships…Learning to be a new woman

What type of relationships do you attract? What kind of relationships do you desire? What type of relationships does God want for you?

Well in order to answer these questions we must start with self. What type of wife are you? If you are not yet a wife but seeking to one day hold this title, what type of woman are you? And remember women the word says in Proverbs 18:22 that who so finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the Lord.

Let's start with presentation since most of the time this it what naturally attracts the opposite sex.
How do you present yourself in public? When you pick out your clothes what type of clothing do you pick? Is your makeup soft & natural, bright & glamorous or none at all? Is your hair big, wild & full of style, neatly kept and tamed or untouched, drab and dull?
Okay now that we're all in the mirror checking ourselves out let's see what God says about how we should present ourselves.
1 Timothy 2:9 NCV Also, women should wear proper clothes that show respect and self-control, not using braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes. Instead, they should do good deeds, which is right for women who say they worship God.

Okay, this is NOT saying that we can't braid our hair, wear gold or expensive clothes. What this IS saying is that those things should NOT be what defines us. Sometimes as women, we put so much emphasis on our outer beauty that we end up drawing negative or unnecessary attention to ourselves. The way this is done is by choosing to wear clothing that is too tight, too short and way too revealing. The makeup we choose is too loud, and sometimes just too much, yes colors are okay but come on....NOT EVERY COLOR OF THE RAINBOW, ALL AT ONCE. There are some (now don't get me wrong) but they have more than one ring on each finger and one on each toe. The nails look like claws and who would want to eat behind the cook that's attached to them. Now I wear a weave and I have absolutely nothing against them BUT there is a way to wear one. I have seen colors out of this world. Face it women.....lately the women today have done so much to themselves that you wouldn't recognize them after being unmasked. Now how do you think a man....a "man of God" would look at this WOMAN?
Well, some of them are just putting up with it and doing their own thing. AND this is what we want to avoid.
The Bible tells a man that the husband should love his wife as Christ loves the church true enough but we have a responsibility too.

A. Proper clothes that show respect and self control...Cover up ladies, that body God blessed you with is NOT for all to see. This is something to be shared with your husband, in the privacy of your bedroom. (for those who aren't married) Save yourself for the one God is preparing for you. Practice now so that he will notice you as being his and not EVERYBODY'S woman. You may have passed by your husband plenty of times but couldn't catch his attention due to the fact that "HE COULDN'T RECOGNIZE YOU".
B. Braided hair, jewelry & expensive things: Everything you put on, clothes, hair, jewelry etc. doesn't have to SPEAK. If the items speak let them speak with a soft meek voice.

How do you want to be approached?
a. Hey Baby, What's Crackin?
b. Can I hit that?
c. or just a kind Hello, how are you...you really look nice today?
Well, check yourself and ask the question...How do I present myself?
We are trying too hard to keep up with whats going on in the world. All the different styles and fads. Look all of it isn't bad but we make it bad by putting more into IT than what we put into things of true importance.
The second part of 1 Timothy 2:9 is telling us that our good deeds are what should be the main attraction. What kind of person are you? Does your outer beauty match your inner beauty or does it out weight it? Are you kind, loving and easy to get along with? or are you...Loud, obnoxious and a bomb ready to explode?

Okay ladies I know this was a mouth full and there is plenty more we can learn about being a Good Godly Wife/Woman. What I'm looking for are question's, concerns or input on this subject, and I will do all I can using God's help to get us all going in the right direction. If you notice I used us.....I"m far from being perfect but my desire is to live up to my true potential of what I am supposed to be and NOT what the world or anyone else expects me to be.
God loves us so much that He decided to give us clear instructions on how to care for all His beautiful creations.